It has been a while and my blog survives 200th posts:)
Got back from Malaysia a week ago. There's a lot going on throughout February. So I was back in Malaysia for CNY but this CNY was kinda different. Sadly my 80 year-old grandfather was admitted to hospital, mainly due to liver problem. He was already in the hospital when I reached Malaysia. Day by day we didn't see any improvement while my grandfather was being transferred from normal ward to high-dependency ward and then to ICU. It was disheartening that when I left for the US he had collapsed into unconsciousness. Indeed, the dreadful thing about staying away from home is when this kind of emergency situation happens and you sort of guilty about not sticking around. I felt bad enough even my grandparents and I never stay together, and we are actually a big family with so many uncles and aunties. Imagine about this happening on my parents or siblings, oh well... this is life. We have to deal with that anyway.
When life and death are at stake we tend to think a lot. Some thought:
a) I am still positive that I will go back to Malaysia in 4 years time. Earning USD is good but spending time with family is way more important. Speaking of family, late marriage is not a good idea. If i want to get married it's shouldn't be too late so that my kids will all be grown up when I get old. By grown up I mean having their own career and family. Too big of an age gap is not good and i think i have one between me and my parents. Both my parents are around 60s now. Sometimes I really wish i am in my 30s now and have my family. I don't know how my parents think. Call me old school but i think most parents see their children's marriage as a milestone to which they have finished their obligation bearing them. That's the point where parents are totally set free of their responsibility after so many years of bringing up a kid, and can rest the burden thereafter. If my parents think the same, too bad coz i have a long way to go. I have no control over this. Silicon valley is really not a place for single! That's a good damn reason why i shouldn't stay here too long.
b) My grandparents have 9 childrens including my mum so I have 5 uncles and 3 aunties. Since my grandfather's situation is critical, all of my uncles and aunties were back. Family support at the moment like this is essential, not so to the patient but among ourselves. The "pain and stress" can be shared. If thing goes bad, my uncles and aunties can count on each other, more so to my grandmother. She can be rest assured that my uncles will take care most of the stuff if not all. That's really a plus of having a big family. In view of current society many families have only 1 kid. Of cause it's no longer possible to have a soccer team like a generation ago but I think it's better to have more than one. Imagine the pressure the ONLY kid faces at time like this, or the pressure that parents face when the ONLY kid encounters misfortune. So if i am lucky enough to get married, then i shall hope that i can afford 2 kids at least. But then again, i have no control over this, maybe my wife doesn't want it or even worse, you simply can't have it ! That's sad but who knows. We have been eating all these contaminated food that might have killed your reproduction system. It's true. Look how fertile the older generation, who don't suffer from polution, is.
c) Medical and life insurance. Its importance never occurs to me until i learned about my grandfather's hospital bill. Medical expenses nowadays is crazy. I have heard story about people who couldn't afford the bill and being left untreated. Show the money else no doctor. Life is cheap indeed. The family members had enough to worry on the fact that you are sick in the hospital so spare them from the money problem. Consequently, I bought myself an insurance right away. It actually gives the peace of mind too. To a certain extent, it means you are responsible for yourself. Ideally I don't want my parents, my sisters or my kids to settle a huge medical bill for me. Of equal importance is regular medical checkup which i haven't done it for long time. My last medical checkup was at least 5 years ago. Even a little dentist visit i have been procrastinating for more than 6 months. No doubt, to get a checkup done does need some courage especially when you get older because the phobia ones has to face when getting the medical report is totally understandable. My dad for example is one, and a stubborn one. Nagging him to get one done is like impossible. None of us know when his last checkup was but thank god he has been maintaining a relatively healthy lifestyle. Being optimistic, we tend to think that bad things will never happen to us, and choose to be ignorant about regular medical checkup. If it does happen, that is destined and you be boh bien but to suck it up. True. But how can we be sure that we are able to suck it up? it might be bigger than you thought.
On a lighter note, I have met up some friends in malaysia. Since it was CNY, most of my friends are back at hometown. We had a high school gathering with about 25 people showing up. You know, sometime the number of people that turn up for gathering can be pathetic but this time was successful. Some of whom I haven't seen for at least 6 years. A friend suddenly called me "chulalongkong" which was my nickname after a thailand king introduced in form 4 or form 5 history class. How funny. Most of us are already working except some are still studying medicine or phd. Not surprisingly most work as engineers but there are some interesting ones like entrepreneur, housing developer, insurance agent, forest researcher and hairstylist! Go 5SA1!
Another interesting one, I met up with a girl that I know through online chatting. Couldn't remember how this started but we have been chatting online for at least 4 yrs. She is definitely a nice girl. We had lunch and walked around KLCC mall. Nowadays meeting up a net friend may be common but this was my first time. Glad that it all went well, nothing awkward. Anyway, thanks for your time and trust but hey I thought you should be more talkative:) Or maybe it's true that people are more expressive online.
Got back from Malaysia a week ago. There's a lot going on throughout February. So I was back in Malaysia for CNY but this CNY was kinda different. Sadly my 80 year-old grandfather was admitted to hospital, mainly due to liver problem. He was already in the hospital when I reached Malaysia. Day by day we didn't see any improvement while my grandfather was being transferred from normal ward to high-dependency ward and then to ICU. It was disheartening that when I left for the US he had collapsed into unconsciousness. Indeed, the dreadful thing about staying away from home is when this kind of emergency situation happens and you sort of guilty about not sticking around. I felt bad enough even my grandparents and I never stay together, and we are actually a big family with so many uncles and aunties. Imagine about this happening on my parents or siblings, oh well... this is life. We have to deal with that anyway.
When life and death are at stake we tend to think a lot. Some thought:
a) I am still positive that I will go back to Malaysia in 4 years time. Earning USD is good but spending time with family is way more important. Speaking of family, late marriage is not a good idea. If i want to get married it's shouldn't be too late so that my kids will all be grown up when I get old. By grown up I mean having their own career and family. Too big of an age gap is not good and i think i have one between me and my parents. Both my parents are around 60s now. Sometimes I really wish i am in my 30s now and have my family. I don't know how my parents think. Call me old school but i think most parents see their children's marriage as a milestone to which they have finished their obligation bearing them. That's the point where parents are totally set free of their responsibility after so many years of bringing up a kid, and can rest the burden thereafter. If my parents think the same, too bad coz i have a long way to go. I have no control over this. Silicon valley is really not a place for single! That's a good damn reason why i shouldn't stay here too long.
b) My grandparents have 9 childrens including my mum so I have 5 uncles and 3 aunties. Since my grandfather's situation is critical, all of my uncles and aunties were back. Family support at the moment like this is essential, not so to the patient but among ourselves. The "pain and stress" can be shared. If thing goes bad, my uncles and aunties can count on each other, more so to my grandmother. She can be rest assured that my uncles will take care most of the stuff if not all. That's really a plus of having a big family. In view of current society many families have only 1 kid. Of cause it's no longer possible to have a soccer team like a generation ago but I think it's better to have more than one. Imagine the pressure the ONLY kid faces at time like this, or the pressure that parents face when the ONLY kid encounters misfortune. So if i am lucky enough to get married, then i shall hope that i can afford 2 kids at least. But then again, i have no control over this, maybe my wife doesn't want it or even worse, you simply can't have it ! That's sad but who knows. We have been eating all these contaminated food that might have killed your reproduction system. It's true. Look how fertile the older generation, who don't suffer from polution, is.
c) Medical and life insurance. Its importance never occurs to me until i learned about my grandfather's hospital bill. Medical expenses nowadays is crazy. I have heard story about people who couldn't afford the bill and being left untreated. Show the money else no doctor. Life is cheap indeed. The family members had enough to worry on the fact that you are sick in the hospital so spare them from the money problem. Consequently, I bought myself an insurance right away. It actually gives the peace of mind too. To a certain extent, it means you are responsible for yourself. Ideally I don't want my parents, my sisters or my kids to settle a huge medical bill for me. Of equal importance is regular medical checkup which i haven't done it for long time. My last medical checkup was at least 5 years ago. Even a little dentist visit i have been procrastinating for more than 6 months. No doubt, to get a checkup done does need some courage especially when you get older because the phobia ones has to face when getting the medical report is totally understandable. My dad for example is one, and a stubborn one. Nagging him to get one done is like impossible. None of us know when his last checkup was but thank god he has been maintaining a relatively healthy lifestyle. Being optimistic, we tend to think that bad things will never happen to us, and choose to be ignorant about regular medical checkup. If it does happen, that is destined and you be boh bien but to suck it up. True. But how can we be sure that we are able to suck it up? it might be bigger than you thought.
On a lighter note, I have met up some friends in malaysia. Since it was CNY, most of my friends are back at hometown. We had a high school gathering with about 25 people showing up. You know, sometime the number of people that turn up for gathering can be pathetic but this time was successful. Some of whom I haven't seen for at least 6 years. A friend suddenly called me "chulalongkong" which was my nickname after a thailand king introduced in form 4 or form 5 history class. How funny. Most of us are already working except some are still studying medicine or phd. Not surprisingly most work as engineers but there are some interesting ones like entrepreneur, housing developer, insurance agent, forest researcher and hairstylist! Go 5SA1!
Another interesting one, I met up with a girl that I know through online chatting. Couldn't remember how this started but we have been chatting online for at least 4 yrs. She is definitely a nice girl. We had lunch and walked around KLCC mall. Nowadays meeting up a net friend may be common but this was my first time. Glad that it all went well, nothing awkward. Anyway, thanks for your time and trust but hey I thought you should be more talkative:) Or maybe it's true that people are more expressive online.
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